Humility in Relationship

To some who were confident of their own righteousness and looked down on everyone else, Jesus told this parable: (Luke 18:9)

“Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. (Luke 18:10)

The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. (Luke 18:11)

I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.’ (Luke 18:12)

“But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.’ (Luke 18:13)

“I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” (Luke 18:14)

Humility – 2 WEEKER

I am not a humble person.

Myspace Name Drop New Website Preaching Somewhere

So many areas in life – pride and ego – wreck

Talk for awhile on Humility

Personal message

“Man, I wish … would hear this” – Easier to fix others

When read bible – associate with good guy

Bad guy? Well your neighbor, boss, friend, spouse.


catch us – blindness

Of course I’m the tax collector in this story

Encourage – be open to the possibility of being ‘caught’

“So instead of loving what you think is peace, love others and love God above all. And instead of hating the people you think are warmakers, hate the appetites and the disorder in your own soul, which are the causes of war. If you love peace, then hate injustice, hate tyranny, hate greed—but hate these things in yourself, not in another.” —Thomas Merton

About me – not you

Prob: Self-Important People


Jayne – 2010 – “Selfishness makes you miserable”

Hard to get along with

Always acting like you’re the expert doesn’t make you look like an expert. I makes you look like an idiot.

Don’t reflect Jesus

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: (Philippians 2:5)

Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; (Philippians 2:6)

rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. (Philippians 2:7)

And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death — even death on a cross! (Philippians 2:8)


Self-Importance is why we fight

Only by pride cometh contention: (Proverbs 13:10)

No matter how long you’ve been together, ego is something you’ll always have to deal with

You’re important too

Gym – metal – Jessica doesn’t like

Get along with each other; don’t be stuck-up. Make friends with nobodies; don’t be the great somebody. (Romans 12:16)

Moving into a new house

Powerrack in spare bedroom Treadmill in living room

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, (Philippians 2:3)

not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. (Philippians 2:4)

You’re smart too

Watching TV – recognizing actors

You need to have a ridiculously small list of things that only you are allowed to be right about.

New couples – You can be right, or you can be kind


I was wrong

In conflict – check yourself

Me and Jordan – apologize

Emperor’s new clothes

Dreamers fantasize their self-importance; they think they are smarter than a whole college faculty. (Proverbs 26:16 MSG)


Go around valuing others

Next time – humility in our beliefs about God, the Bible and Church